Timeless Proposal Ideas
Old black and white films are one of my indulgences and although L often joins me on a Sunday afternoon, she is usually pottering around watering the plants and hanging the washing out rather than sitting glued to the television as I am.
It is the romance and tradition that I love in these films, and they really appeal to the sensitive side of me. It actually makes me a little sad when I think that the old-fashioned way of proposing, by taking a woman to dinner and simply falling down on one knee, seems to be going out of style.
The Power of Simplicity
In today’s world, simplicity isn’t valued as much as it once was and women now expect grand proposals and original declarations of love. I know L will be happy with however I propose, but with so many options these days it sometimes leaves me more than confused.
I watched the film but my mind was elsewhere. By the time a man makes the decision to buy the engagement ring and how to propose, he should be fairly sure that the lady in question will say yes, so really what is the point of a big show? Is it because men of today like to brag? Do they get more credibility if their proposal ideas are more off the wall?
Women love to tell their friends just how romantic their beau is and men will compete in any capacity. But for those guys lost for fantastic proposal ideas, help is at hand. The most effective modern proposal ideas are often based on the old traditional ones and thankfully never age or go out of fashion.
It is All in the Surprise
The Surprise is everything. You might be tempted to ask your girlfriend what her dream proposal is, but I believe that it is better not to.
Keep your proposal ideas to yourself, as in the end, no matter what any woman says, she will be much more excited if she doesn’t know the big question is coming.
This is even more important if you have gone ring shopping together. The woman should experience some suspense and surprise, and it will make the moment even more special. 90% of women say they do not want to be involved in planning their engagement, as they will have enough planning to do on the way to the wedding.
Ask her father or mother for her hand in marriage. This might seem a little archaic when it comes to proposal ideas, but no matter how independent and modern your girl is, she and her family will appreciate this gesture.
A father is one of the most important people in a girl’s life and should be shown respect. By asking for his blessing, you will avoid any awkwardness in the future and are sure to be welcomed into the family. This sits well with my traditional values and I know that I will be asking L’s father when the time comes.
Will You Marry Me?
Many men are so overcome with fear when they actually get down on that one knee that their mind goes blank. The most important thing to remember is to say “will you marry me?”. No matter what epic poem or grand display you have prepared, these four words are the most important part.
Proposing with no ring is one of the biggest mistakes a groom can make. A girl wants something to show her friends. Plan ahead and make sure that the ring is organised, whether she has chosen it or not. You should know her ring size, but if there is any discrepancy, this can be changed afterwards. The important thing is that the ring is present at the proposal.
I still think the old ways are the best, which is why I love my old movies. They epitomise romance and although, when I decide how to propose, I might add a quirk or two, you can rest assured that the ring will do most of the talking, just as it did in the old days.