Out on my run with Lemon Tree after my sleepless night thinking about how to propose, I decided to draw up a mental list of do’s and don’ts for proposal ideas.
The pressure to get it just perfect can feel a bit overwhelming at times, so I handle this in the only way I know how and think about all my options and weigh them up against each other. I started with the dos.
Starting With the Dos
Do make it a surprise. The one thing a woman does want when being proposed to is a surprise, and even if you have discussed marriage before with your partner, you can still make this night a surprise for her by subverting her expectations.
If you aren’t usually the romantic type, your long-time partner will know something is up when you take her out to a fancy restaurant, so perhaps tell her you’re both going out with friends only for them to cancel on you. She’ll never see it coming.
Do prepare something to say. Even if you don’t manage to get it all out because of nerves, having something in mind is really important when you are thinking of proposal ideas.
What you say will make her feel special. Tell her why you want to marry her, how she makes you feel, and the little things about her that made you fall in love with her in the first place. Contrary to popular belief, everyone loves a little romance.
Do find the perfect engagement ring. A proposal without an engagement ring is like a pencil without a lead. It can be hard to find the right engagement ring, as we know, but ideally you should have found one before you propose.
Do be creative when thinking about proposal ideas. People propose all the time, meaning that discovering new proposal ideas and trying to be individual and imaginative can be tough. Going the extra mile is sure to impress both your future wife and her friends, who will want to know all the details afterwards. Think of doing something a little different and consider proposal ideas that guarantee a night to remember.
Do choose a personal spot. If there are any places from your relationship that have true significance, why not revisit them for that ultimate romantic touch? Whether it’s the location of your first kiss, where you first met or just a place where you had a great day out, a personal touch lets her know how much thought you’ve put into it.
Do get down on one knee. It may seem archaic, old fashioned, and a relic of bygone days, but provided you have well oiled joints it’s not too much to ask. For that extra romantic touch, make sure she’s sitting down so that you can keep eye contact when proposing.
I have no definite ideas on how to propose or how I will pop the question, but I do know that going through all my options has made the idea much less daunting. Tomorrow I will make my mental notes of the don’ts when it comes to how to propose.